Resolved Question: Has the world turned upside down as far as relationship behavior among men and women?
When I was a kid, my dad had his boys night out. He played poker with a group of guys. I heard that other stuff went on, on those boys night outs. Sometimes my mom would yell at my dad accusing him of all sorts of stuff when he came home later than expected. She really didn’t go out at night, except to work or to go out with my dad. If she got together with another women, she would meet a girl friend during the day. My mom never went out with women for a girls night out. Ever. Today, since my divorce, I am finding one thing in common with every woman that I date. Girls night. Drinking is usually involved. And its not just a few beers or glasses of wine. Shots and beer chasers are involved. Pub crawling seems to be the norm. Despite the fact that it is a Girls Night Out, sometimes certain men are invited to join the girls, but it is never a husband or boyfriend of one of them. Or they meet guys who follow them from one place to the next. Sometimes there are sleep overs which include these men. Drinking all night. Partying all night. Its a mixed bag of unattached women, married women and women that have boyfriends living with them or dating them exclusively. By the same token, I have been accused left and right of cheating on girlfriends for absolutely ridiculous reasoning. I was watching the news and the weather girl came on. I mentioned that she had a hot outfit on. My girlfriend changed the channel. If we are out on a date in the city, she has made comments if we pass any young single women dressed up for night clubs. She calls them the hoochie mommas and points them out to me. If I dare to look at them, I get lectured about it. When she goes out with the girls, I can’t contact her for two days. That includes the night she goes out and the following day. Sometimes, the partying is so intense that she takes the following day off from work and she will not answer my calls for 24-48 hours. When she goes out, she is incommunicado. If I go out with one of my musician friends, see my cousin, or meet with one of my guy friends, my girl friend calls and texts me ever hour on the hour until she knows that I am home. If she finds out where we are, she will go there, show up, introduce herself to every one. And then she stays with me, uninvited. Sometimes, I just want a night to be with my friends. This weekend she turned me down for two dates to go out with the girls. When she goes out with them, she will call my home phone several times throughout the night to make sure that I am home. If I am out, even to go to the drug store to pick up a prescription, she freaks out and tells me to get home as soon as possible. And its not just the current. It was that way with the previous. And the girl before her. So it seems that if I do not see her on any given night, she wants to verify that I am home. On the other hand, she insists on going out with her girlfriends and partying all night. She refuses to tell me where she is and I only find out later on when she is with me and has a few drinks. She seems to go to a lot of dance clubs and bars where single people meet. She likes to fix up her single girlfriend. She talks and dances with other guys but she says trust me I’m with you. Sometimes she goes off and stays over night with a girlfriend or girlfriends and partying goes on all night at one of the girls apartments. Often times, men are invited back to the place, but husbands and boyfriends are not allowed. I am in my forties and these women are also. All of these women seemed to have been in marriages and relationships in which husbands and boyfriends restricted their behavior. Now they are letting loose. But they also have trust issues. It’s okay for her to party all night with the girls. But if I so much as go to a buddy’s apartment to play guitars and jam, she assumes I am dating another woman. I really do not like the all night partying. With the current GF, she needs to take time off work when she is hungover. She casually mentioned that she slept on a couch and woke up sleeping next to a guy. She sometimes blacks out when she drinks or mixes alcohol and smokes pot. Pot smoking has been added to the girls night out activities. I am not sure if other drugs are involved but I know that boozing and pot smoking is part of it. I could tell her that I don’t care for this type of behavior and break up with her. However, I know that the next woman I meet is probably going to be another carbon copy of one of the women from Sex and the City. I hate that show. And now it seems as if I am dating characters from that show. I broke up with Sarah Jessica Parker. Now I am going out with Kim Cattrall. I dumped one drunken player for another. One of my college buddies had this to say. If they are that old and not married, for a woman, there is probably a good reason. He advised me to date a younger woman. That the women my age are not looking fo
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